Friday, 1 June 2012

Book Review - Chicken Soup for the Indian Couple's Soul



So I recently read this book called Chicken Soup for the Indian Couple's Soul.


It's one of these feel good inspirational books for people who need them. As the book by-line reads - inspirational stories about love and relationships.


Firstly, this book is huge. I wasn't able to get through it in my usual time, in spite of the fact that I usually skim through books comprising short stories. I suppose this had something to do with the subject matter. I'm not much for literature aimed at inspiring, and this is the first Chicken Soup book I've read, so I wasn't even sure what to expect.


Right, so the book contains around 100 short stories (by a staggering 75+ contributing writers) split up into a bunch of interesting relationship related categories.


The book begins on a bittersweet note with 'The Odd Couple' by Tanya Mendonsa, and continues on with other stories dealing with people who met online or met each other through other means, people who seemed like they weren't right for each other, people who lost and found each other again, etc.


The second set of stories, on starting a family, is somewhat less romantic and covers a diverse range of situations in which people have found themselves in, from struggling with a new born and the consequences that inevitably follow, to not being able to have a child.


The section on love and support is less somber, and also includes a couple of stories I really like. One is travel related, and I wish it were longer. Written by Bunny Gupta, it tells of a Nepali couple and their setting up a life together.


The other, a poem by Roma Kapadia about invisible walls we build, is probably one of the most beautiful and relevant poems I've ever read.


A matter of perspective has some weird stories that don't really seem like they're going anywhere as far as a common theme is concerned, but they're decent reading anyhow even if their classification is haphazard.


The next section, In Sickness and in Health, is predictable, dealing with people sticking with each other even though one party is sick.


This theme is carried forward in Overcoming Obstacles, another set of assorted short stories, a good one being 'The Fragrance of Rice' by Nonda Chatterjee.


Coping with Death sounds like a collection of macabre stories, but a lot of them have cheerful endings, ending with new hope. Ba Bapujee and A Touch of Love are especially good examples.


The last section The Fire Never Dies is an assortment of stories that showcase stories of relationships over time, some sad, some happy. A mixed bag, like life itself.


Given the range of personalities and situations, this is the kind of book that offers enough situations or emotional settings that everyone can identify with at some point. This, and the simple prose, make it a good read for people looking for light inspirational reading.


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Sunday, 22 April 2012

13 Trekking Tips You Might Not Have Heard Elsewhere



1. Trek at your own pace. It's not a race. You're not here to compete with the rest of the group.


2. Do not leave the group and wander off alone. If you find you're lagging behind, try to pair up with a buddy.


3. Trek with meat eaters. They carry better food.


4. Trek with pros. They know what they're doing.


5. Never be the first person in a line of trekkers. You will also be the first person to walk into spider webs.


6. Always trek behind girls. In case of backdrafts, they smell better.


7. Never wear flat soled shoes.


8. Always wear a hat.


9. While walking up or down a steep curving bend, it's less effort to walk around the outer edge of the bend, but also longer. It's a trade-off.


10. While walking down a slippery slope, either take long confident strides, or slow measured steps. In the former, you might fall down less, but fall hard. In the latter, you might fall down more often, but lighter. It's a trade-off.


11. While trekking, wear anti-perspirant, not deodorant.


12. It's preferable to trek with girls. Girls talk less while trekking. Guys always have irritating trekking stories. They can't shut up.


13. If you're not a smoker, never trek with smokers.

14. Avoid trekking on Sundays.

15. If you have to trek on a Sunday, trek to a place that doesn't have an approach road for vehicles.

16. If in a group, stay away from overconfident people or know-it-all's.


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Wednesday, 18 April 2012

12 Types Of People That Turn Up For Every Live Music Event, And How To Spot Them


The Expert


He knows more about music than any other person on the planet. He can provide you with a short description of every music genre, the name of every musician, every group that they played in, every album they released, and the middle names of their stalkers, without being asked. He tends to make people around him feel inadequate.


How to spot him: He’s usually standing off to one side of a club, carefully observing, analysing and memorising every detail of a live performance.


The Entitled One


He was a frequent visitor here when the paint on the walls of this club was still wet. He thinks he knows more about this venue than anyone else, and has a connection to it that no one else does. On a first name basis with both the owners and service staff, he’s proud to have been the first person to see a certain band play at this venue, even though they play here every month.


How to spot him: He has a really smug look on his face when something goes wrong, the expression on his face being “I knew that was going to happen.”


The Wide Eyed Noob


She has spent her whole clueless, protected life hanging out with close friends at pubs around her home, listening to remixes on loop. She doesn’t really know what type of music she likes, but she thinks The Black Eyed Peas are ‘kind of cool’. She doesn’t really care about the band playing tonight. She’s only here because a friend thought it would be a good idea for them to come, and she didn’t have any other plans.


How to spot her: She’s restless; her eyes keep wandering around, looking for interesting things to discuss with her girlfriend, who’s side she doesn’t plan on leaving for the next 2 hours.


The Event-Goer


He doesn’t really care about who’s playing. He’s only here because he’s starved for live entertainment. He’s from out-of-town, earns a respectable income at an IT firm, working long 6 day weeks. He spends Saturday nights at home with his 3 flatmates, eating Indian-Chinese take-out and drinking Fosters, wondering when something interesting is going to happen. He’s usually the first one to buy those Iron Maiden/Bryan Adams tickets.


How to spot him: He’s usually jumping up and down in the middle of the crowd at a live gig, high-fiving strangers.


The Corporate Guy


He doesn’t really get this type of music. Never did. Not even when batch mates tried introducing him to Pink Floyd back in engineering college. He’s been brought up to appreciate a very different kind of music, and this stuff is just noise. He’s only here for appearances sake.


His company just won a major contract, and all the senior executives have decided to come here tonight to celebrate. He can’t say no, though he’d have preferred a more prestigious venue, like a 5 star hotel.


How to spot him: He’s usually sharing a table with other corporate types, laughing a little too loudly at their jokes, and trying to ignore the music.


The Spouse


She’s pushing 40, and is only here because her husband brought her. He said he’d take her someplace nice. She thinks they might have done better, but she’s willing to give this place a try. 


She doesn’t really follow music, or anything else for that matter. She’d never come here on her own, and doesn’t have any friends who’d come with her if she wanted to. She sneaks glances at the other people around her, wondering what their lives are like.


How to spot her: She’s usually in a private VIP booth, sipping a drink, a glazed look on her face.


The Headbanger


He lives to rock, has been waiting weeks for this gig, and plans to start a mosh pit at some point tonight. He has come prepared, and is even wearing a cup. He doesn’t need to eat, but will tank up on alcohol or weed or both, by the end of the night, even though he has little or no money. He wants to immerse himself in the music, and shows disdain for anyone not taking this as seriously as he does, branding them pseudo fans.


How to spot him: The one near the stage, wearing a black rock tee and denims or khaki 3/4ths, along with 500 other people who look just like him.


The Photographer


He’s spent half his annual salary on his photography equipment - camera, lenses and accessories, and is constantly worried that someone may damage them. He’s gotten used to the weird self conscious poses that he gets into for each shot. He checks out other photographers’ equipment to see if it’s better than his.


He has no idea how he’s going to make a living off of this, but he consoles himself with the fact that the perks are good.


How to spot him: He’s the only one closer to the stage than the headbangers.


The Music Journalist


He’s trying to find a balance between working and enjoying the performance. He’s done his research. He knows a bit about this band already. And he can write well. He’s attended gigs before, and he recognises a few familiar faces here - other regulars, fans of the band, people who like his articles, suck-ups who want his job. But for now, he’s more interested in the freebies.


How to spot him: He’s busy taking notes and talking to ‘The Expert’.


The Networker


Some people just want to be where all the popular people are. The Networker will scan the city’s event’s websites, Facebook walls, and Twitter timelines, for upcoming gigs. He was planning to organise a tweetup, but realised attending this gig would be a better idea, since everyone he wants to meet is going to be here. The live music is just incidental.


How to spot him: He’s busy handing out business cards, exchanging numbers, & trying to be funny during breaks in a set.


The Old-timer


Someone who’s clearly in the wrong place. He hoped he’d get a dose of some old school music, something he enjoyed when he was younger, but he can’t understand the music being played in front of him, and realises with a jolt that he doesn’t really belong here. This place is for his kids. So much for that nostalgia trip.


How to spot him: He’s the old guy who leaves after the first song.


The Observer


He appreciates good music, even though he doesn’t always get it. He likes listening to new types of music, but isn’t a fanboy. He’s here to experience something new, so he can cross it off his list. He feels the need to record everything he sees around him, for an invisible audience to appreciate.


He likes making lists, and uses what he thinks is dry, disassociative humour. Other people irritate him, so he doesn’t bother engaging in pointless conversation with them. That doesn’t stop him from hoping they read his tweets anyway.


How to spot him: He’s continually tweeting his feelings about the gig. He might even blog about it later.


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Wednesday, 25 January 2012

IT guys, Snobbishness & Competencies



A lot of IT guys, particularly the ones that just hit the job scene, seem to have a sort of snobbish complex about their jobs, looking down on people with fewer technical skills and more business administration skills. They laugh at terms like Prioritization, Time Management, Change Management, Lean Fundamentals & Project Management, thinking these 'made up terms' that don't really have any value and don't really do anything. 

Perhaps, when your work involves technical expertise, you tend to work within a bubble, respecting only those people around you with similar skills & objectives, and mentally demeaning or devaluing those within administration, management, etc.

However, techies would do well to remember that the companies they work for wouldn't be around for long without these kinds of folk. We’re not talking about start-ups. We're talking about a large IT company, with 5,000 to 50,000 employees. Companies like these run on processes.

Your brilliant scientific mind and those of your colleagues might develop a software product that changes the way we live, but it takes a whole team of costing specialists to number crunch, deciding how much value they should attach to the end product and its various stages of development, including the value of your time spent developing it. Without the cost managers, how would your company know what to charge for anything, or the ideal time a project should take till completion, or how much to bill a client, or how much to pay you? It probably wouldn't even have financially mapped deadlines.

Then there’s the business development guys, the ones who reach out to create clients to begin with. You wouldn't have any work without them, since they’re the ones who’re out there in the field pimping you. And they need the latest analytical tools (that you deem useless) to help sell your services.

Once a contract’s been signed, you need to have client relationship people to keep the client informed and happy. You can’t expect the clients to talk to you techies and get a straight answer to a query about a project update, in English, in less that 20 seconds. And the client relationship guys need a whole host of soft business skills to be good at what they do.

And of course you need real business experts, operations and process experts to ensure the human conveyor belt keep functioning smoothly and efficiently. And they can't be using outdated project management tools now, can they?

There's simply no room for snobbishness in a large organisation, and with such specific job roles as yours, it's understandable to come across competencies you don't understand. But remember, every competency is valuable.


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Sunday, 15 January 2012

God probably loves Non-Believers



If there is a God, chances are he'd probably respect his creations more if they used the intelligence he gave them, to the best of their ability. The only way to effectively use our brains to the best of their ability is to be as rational as we can. And rational thinking shows us that Belief is pointless. Therefore, using our God given intelligence to the best of its ability results in us not believing in God. This is logical.


Do you see what I'm getting at? If God created us to not believe in him, he's probably going to welcome atheists into Heaven, and reject religious folk. If he exists, he probably looks down in disappointment at people who rely on Belief or Faith instead of Reason.


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Saturday, 31 December 2011

Things that made the news in 2011


1. Mass creature deaths
2. Egypt Revolution
3. Raymond Davis/Pakistan
4. Arab Unrest
5. Cricket World Cup
6. NZ Quake
7. Libya
8. Japan quake and tsunami
9. WikiLeaks India
10. Anna Hazare
11. IPL 4
12. Alcohol prices raised in Mumbai
13. Kalmadi arrested
14. 2G scam
15. Metallica in India
16. Osama Bin Laden dead
17. Goddess Lakshmi on swimsuit
18. Baba Ramdev on strike
19. Neeraj Grover Murder Verdict
20. MV Wisdom stranded at Juhu
21. Ghulam Azad on homosexuality
22. Padmanabhaswamy Temple Treasure
23. Govind Tiwari
24. Kalmadi Dementia
25. Rupert Murdoch/News of the World
26. Hina Rabbani Khar
27. Karnataka Mining Scam/Yeddyurappa Resigns

28. London Riots
29. Market Crashes
30. Delhi HC Bomb Blasts
31. Delhi Quake
32. Mayawati-Assange
33. Open letter to a Delhi boy
34. NaMo fast
35. Steve Jobs passes away
36. Blackberry Outage
37. Ra.One
38. Orissa Floods
39. F1 in India
40. 7 Billionth Baby
41. Nammo Metro
42. Kolaveri Di
43. Kepler 22
44. CST Flash Mob
45. Kapil Sibal & website regulation


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Friday, 30 December 2011

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Monday, 26 December 2011

Movies Seen - Before the Devil Knows You're Dead, Bridesmaids, Jeff Dunham's Christmas Special, The Nightmare Before Christmas, Emerald Knights, Bitter Feast, Green Lantern



Before the Devil Knows You're Dead (2007)


Deep emotional film. Good acting, story, direction, though a bit slow for my taste.


Bridesmaids (2011)


Started off well, building up to what seemed like a really good comedy. Then the lead character's unnecessary neuroticism ruined it. Which is a pity since she's extremely likable, and the script is mostly good.


Jeff Dunham's Very Special Christmas Special (2008)


Hilarious. Highly recommended.


The Nightmare before Christmas (1993)


Tim Burton at his best. Highly recommended if you like that kind of stuff. Wish I had seen this 15 years ago.


Green Lantern: Emerald Knights (2011)


An animated sequel to the Green Lantern film. A collection of stories within stories within a larger story arc. Enjoyable.


Bitter Feast (2010)


I liked the focus on the personalities of the lead pair at the start of the film. Good definition there, and a lot to identify with. Unusual film. Non orthodox. Interesting. Recommended. Food bloggers have to watch this film.


Green Lantern (2011)


An O.K film. Similar in scope to Fantastic 4: Rise of the Silver Surfer. You'd expect more from a film released in a superhero film filled year.


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Friday, 23 December 2011

Friday Links 18



Animals


Dolphin goes whale sliding - http://animalwise.org/2011/12/14/an-uplifting-dolphin-story-literally/

Turtles killed by blue lined octopuses - http://www.lastwordonnothing.com/2011/12/14/guest-post-the-nature-of-octopuses/


More about the awesome naked mole rat - http://blogs.discovermagazine.com/discoblog/2011/12/16/naked-mole-rat-super-power-12-they-feel-no-burn/


Bearded Dragon plays ant crusher on smartphone - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WTpldq3myV0


Fire ants rely on local collaborators - http://blogs.discovermagazine.com/notrocketscience/2011/12/05/fire-ants-conquered-america-by-monopolising-calorie-rich-food/

Science


Excellent video explaining the resurrection fern - http://creaturecast.org/archives/2398-creaturecast-resurrection-fern


Business


A Google Chrome ad demonstrates how a TN based artist is bringing back Tanjore - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9vt5gcX521Y&feature=youtu.be


Humour


Shit Girls Say - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u-yLGIH7W9Y


Best Inception meme yet - http://comixed.memebase.com/2011/12/15/koma-comic-strip-punny-stuff/

And that ladies, is "how it's done" http://comixed.memebase.com/2011/12/15/koma-comic-strip-id-rather-have-a-sandwich/

Travel


Goa - Fisticuffs and Feni - http://www.mid-day.com/news/2011/dec/211211-Fisticuffs-and-Feni.htm


Sports


I wonder how many football injuries are the result of celebrations - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CjAQy_LERaU&feature=related


Philosophy


The case against Santa - http://www.3quarksdaily.com/3quarksdaily/2011/12/the-case-against-santa.html


People


Malayalis in Pakistan - http://www.indianexpress.com/news/malappuram-in-karachi/885812/0


Crime


The Stephen Bennett murder trial draws to a close - http://www.indianexpress.com/news/five-years-on-six-men-held-for-killing-british-tourist-walk-free/889502/


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Wednesday, 21 December 2011

Movies Seen Recently: Cop Out, X-Men: First Class, Bunraku, Enchanted, Couples Retreat, The Root of all Evil



Cop Out (2010)


Expected more from a Kevin Smith film. Only Sean William Scott provides some real humour.


X Men: First Class (2011)


Props to Kevin Bacon for one of the best portrayals of a villain. As enjoyable as Tom Hiddleston's performance in Thor. The movie itself has a pretty average narrative for the most part. They could have done better, and improved the story too. Because of these drawbacks, the film tends to get a bit shaky towards the middle, but ends on a high.


Who Says Science has Nothing to Say About Morality? (2011)


Interesting.


Bunraku (2010)


A waste of time.


Enchanted (2007)


Just O.K.


Couples Retreat (2011)


Mostly a waste of time.


The Root of all Evil (2006)


Interesting Dawkins' led documentary on the evils of religion. Recommended.
 

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